I have few friends. Before you go all “oh that’s so sad/funny” let me add a caveat. I know a lot of people, and have known a lot of people. It’s just that I don’t class many of them as friends. Acquaintances, colleagues, contacts, companions, yes. There is nothing wrong with being one of them. What makes a friend though? What has to happen to push through simply knowing someone to it being a friendship?
Sam never left Frodo, even when he was cast away.
A real friendship is one where you are completely honest and truthful. You have complete trust in the other person. You would do anything for them without expecting any reward or praise in return. Cicero thought that as well, and he was one of the greatest philosophers.
A friend knows when things are wrong, and knows when and how to ask what it is. A friend doesn’t just say “what’s up?”
True friends are there for you when times are bad, and will still be there after you have been horrible and mean to be around. A friend forgives.
Friends put you before their own self-interest.
But I am a crap friend, and I have lost more than I care to think about. I have been mean and neglectful and selfish. When I have a longer relationship with a games console rather than real human beings you have to ask “where did it all go wrong?”
What can I (and perhaps everyone) do to be a better friend?
Talk to them, not shut off communication for some stupid reason and understand they want to help. Make the effort even when they don’t, as JFK said:
not because they are easy, but because they are hard, because that goal will serve to organize and measure the best of our energies and skills, because that challenge is one that we are willing to accept, one we are unwilling to postpone, and one which we intend to win, and the others, too.
Ok he said that about going to the moon, but friendships are a bit like that.
Think less, forgive more.