I really enjoy working in marketing, as a numbers kinda person it is so easy for me to be placed in a team of ‘like minded’ individuals who may have a similar set of technical skills but a differing level of competence in the social.
Not that I’m knocking ‘number people’, I’m from that tribe, but I get looked at strange enough by the ‘zany’ (I heard this word for the first time since 1995 this week) in marketing so sometimes my dialogue can seriously disturb those in finance.
I’m also now in a big enough team that I can be shared around. I will be the first to admit that I can be a bit much sometimes, in fact most of the time I’m fed up of hearing me speak. Others are lucky as they can stick in headphones, poor me has got my inner Geek Ergo going all the time.
In the unlikely event I am ever incarcerated (I would imagine it would be for being too awesome – or trying to overthrow the government) it would be impossible for me to be placed in solitary confinement as I would have myself for company. In fact that may be worse, I think I would confess to the crimes rather than being locked up with my Ids and Egos.
I see this in The Feliciraptor, or should I say hear it. She can spend a whole car ride talking to herself, giving requests for songs and nursery rhymes she will self-fulfil. Even when we put her down at night she has to say goodnight to everyone in the cot, and again to herself. At least I hope this is the case, I have been reading one to many Creepy Pastas.
So if there is a problem with one what is the ideal number? When I get to larger groups I find I can sink back and take the role of watcher. I am an inveterate people watcher so take more pleasure in following proceedings than taking part. If the party is too small then I become introverted and reluctant to take part.
Instead the perfect amount is me and one other. It could be Mrs G, or The Feliciraptor, but having a tête-à-tête with another is my perfect conversation. Even if is more TETE-à-tête. Just having to perform for one other, and being the centre of attention sounds good to me.
As long as the tête is not myself.
A lively group discussion, an intimate tête-à-tête, an inner monologue — in your view, when it comes to a good conversation, what’s the ideal number of people?
Source: Counting Voices