Nothing to fear but fear itself

In which I get a little scared.

A few good men shout

Fear is a funny thing, we are constantly told to fight it but it serves as a useful survival tool. What would life be like if we were to not be scared at all, a little fear can go a long way to stopping someone from doing some very silly things.

I’ve said before there are only a few things to be genuinely terrified of (bears with guns and the heat death of the universe) but it is still okay to be a little frightened of other things. What is not alright is to be so scared to be paralysed with fear. Sometimes you need to be brave enough to take a chance when it’s presented to you, just like I did four years ago.

That was when I decided to “do something silly” and asked Mrs G to marry me. I should have been to scared to ask based upon the fear of rejection but I took a punt and look where I am now. Being to frit to pop the question would have been terrible and a great argument for the abolition of fear, but now I have new fears.

I’m afraid to hurt those I love and care for, and for good reason. I shouldn’t be able to go and be responsible for any pain they feel because I’m not afraid of the consequences, it is right that it should fill me with dread. Without fear I have no compunction about doing what I want without concern for the outcome. Being fearless is not about going willy nilly into danger but about knowing where your limits are.

This is why you have reckless dead people and fearless living ones, it’s about understanding what you should be scared about and not about ignoring the dangers. The absence of fear is the absence of safety, being unafraid is more than driving fast with your seat belt off.

If I was unafraid of anything my life would be much worse, every risk I’ve ever took has been based on carefully understood pitfalls. Sure I could have been in a better position in life if I’d been a but more daring, but I could have also been a lot worse off. Knowing when to hold them and when to fold them is a much greater life skill then always going all in.

Those that choose fight over flight can’t always win, it is very rare that someone can live a whole life as undefeated world champion. If we are going for the boxing analogy then you’ll also see that those with the perfect record saw when they were a-bout to lose and got out rather than have one last payday.

Fear keeps us safe, it let’s us know that Gentle Ben with an AK47 is a bad idea and that living forever means in trillions of years there won’t be much to do.

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Never let fear rule your life, just let it guide you sometimes.

How would your life be different if you were incapable of feeling fear? Would your life be better or worse than it is now? (Thanks, Nique Lektra, for inspiring this prompt!)

Source: Fearless Fantasies

Author: geekergosum

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2 thoughts on “Nothing to fear but fear itself”

    1. I think the most important fear to control is the fear of failure. I see too many people scared to do something on the off chance it goes badly (both in my personal life and professional life), sometimes you don’t need to worry about what will happen…but how likely it is to happen.

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