No thank you feelings

In which I’d rather not feel anything,

Messy desk at work

Feelings are really starting to bug me.

Not the hug, kiss, sad kind of feelings. Being emotional is fine, it’s the “feelings” that have no evidence. If you are angry you can feel angry, if you don’t agree with something without good reason then you are not allowed to “feel”. It is this work based “feel” and it’s sister “think” that are really starting to bug me. If you have a “feeling” about something then get me evidence, don’t expect me to act on your intuition without any backing. Why do people do this?

Acting on a feeling is fine if you have a track record of good ones, but here is something you should know”

Not everyone has good feelings.

Some are just right awful, especially those who feel in the face of evidence. If you feel that the Earth is flat you are wrong, if you feel that we should go slower and I’m doing 90mph you are right. When you put forward a new proposal for a way of working that is but together with feelings and not use the mountain of evidence which suggests a better way then, again, you are wrong.

Google bans “feel” and I agree with them. It discourages using the phrase “I like” in design meetings, such as “I like the way the screen looks.” Instead, they encourage “The experimentation on the site shows that his design performed 10% better.” They tested 32 different shades of blue for the links we click on the search results to identify which one works better and not which people had a feeling about. It is using fact-based evidence to cut through the political crap that “feel” produces. If your feeling is just to protect your job, then you are wrong. If your feeling is to continue with a way of working that is broke, you are wrong. If your feeling is contrary to anyone else’s, then you are wrong.

Unless you are a genius.

Genius does get to feel, they have this instinct that there is a paradigm shift waiting to happen and their gut tells them this. Luckily they have a pretty smart gut that says “If you want to feel this way then you need to test evidence”.

So I want to ban “feel”, I know that this will make my life better.

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “No, Thank You.”

If you could permanently ban a word from general usage, which one would it be? Why?

Author: geekergosum

Ah, so you worked out the riddle. You just needed to use dwarfish and the doors to Geek Ergo Sum opened. Or perhaps you just used Google. Either way you are here, on my little corner of the Internet.

3 thoughts on “No thank you feelings”

  1. I come from a different perspective than you do but I also have a reaction to the use of the word feel. Whenever people say “I feel that….” or “I feel like……” whatever comes after it is never a feeling….. it is a thought. I feel angry….. I feel sad….. I feel happy….. I feel afraid…… is clear communication.


    1. I dislike the way feel is used to say “if you disagree with my feelings then you are saying my emotions don’t 5 count with you facts and figures”. It’s like they are pitting humans against spreadsheets.

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      1. Again, in that sentences they are probably really talking about thoughts even though they are using the word feel. Feelings just “are”. They are for the person that is having them. They are not for other people.

        One of the things everyone needs to learn in life is that it is okay to disagree. Life gets really complicated and unpleasant when people get into insisting that their way is the only right way.


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