I should have worked harder on my exams, I shouldn’t have worked for that opticians, I shouldn’t have gone to try University a second time, I shouldn’t have worked in Oxfordshire, I shouldn’t have started supporting AC Milan, I shouldn’t have lost contact with the Nobber, I shouldn’t have done a lot of things. Wishing to change your life is easy but you know what is hard?
Trying to imagine your life if you had wished those situations to be different? If I had wished to have gone to Warwick Uni, never met the nobber, not took that job in Oxford. My life wouldn’t have been a little different, it would have been unrecognisable. I would not be sitting here typing this, I may not even be doing a blog. Who knows, I may not even be here. Having a wishful life is going to change your life for the worst as well as for the best.
Edith Piaf had it spot on, if I wish away the regrets in life then I have to rewrite the positive things that arose from them. I’ll let this man explain it:
Life is tough and hard, and bad things happen. So do good things. The way of the world is that often sad times are germinated by the good times and vice versa.
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools
Don’t live your life thinking of the “wwish-I-could” but live in the present and look forward to working for a better future. Everything I have in my life is because I earned it. My wife, my daughter, my house, and my job I worked for them rather than being given them via some life cheat code.
Wishing that I didn’t work for that opticians, then I don’t have a breakdown and start working for another firm that leads to me meeting Mrs G. I might be married now with someone else, but I might still be alone. We don’t have the power to wish our lives better but we do have the ability to ruin what we have by wanting for the “never-could-be”.
Never trade your happiness for the chance of having more, do not wish for less bad luck because it could get worse.
In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Lucky Star.”
Today is your lucky day. You get three wishes, granted to you by The Daily Post. What are your three wishes and why?